Tuesday, November 8, 2005

What makes a hero?

So, I spent a large portion of my day today chatting online with my cp.... I've never had a cp until very recently and for anyone who has never had one I now heartily recommend it! Well, if you can find one as wonderful as mine that is! And NO you CAN'T have mine!

So we should really chat about books, books and nothing else but books. You'd think. But oh no, our chats can cover a large variety of subjects... Hero's included...

Which led me to wonder just what exactly makes a hero a hero? We all like to hope we'd look at him across a crowded street so looks are important. But each and every woman on the planet has a different idea of what looks good and what doesn't. So maybe we have to delve below the surface a little more... Is it his strength, of character as much as of a physical nature? Is it having a sense of humour? Is it being well off or successful in what he does? Is it because he's make a great father? Or is it simply that on watching him fall for someone on paper we find ourselves falling too?

And in wondering all those things I, as a single girl, have to ask myself do I put traits in my characters that I would look for in real life? It would certainly explain why I'm still single... Because realistically, do hero's like that still exist in real life?

So take me out of my sudden slump of depression ladies... Do they exist out there? What is you hero like? What would you like to see more of on paper? Maybe you'd even like to tell me about a hero in print that has touched you or that you thought.. If only I'd met HIM???

Give a girl some hope here.....

6 comments:

Liz Fielding said...

Trish, I was having my hair cut last week when this man wandered in, hoping to have a trim.

Tall, really tall, dark (that crisp thick dark "hero" hair) and omigodhandsome.

The senior stylist took him by the hand, said, if he'd just wait, someone would be with him in a minute or two, and then she sat him down right in the middle of the salon where we could all look at him.

When he was finally led away by the lucky girl assigned, we all let out a long sigh.

Sweet.

Trish said...

Oooh... and WHERE was that hairdressers Liz???

It's the whole 'all the good ones are married or taken' thing that I think is the most depressing part. SIGH. As a girl who is most definately *not* a taker of other women's men (do unto others and all that... also related to what goes around...) and the fact that I'm, shall we say, of a certain amount of maturity, means that the odds on that gorgeous dark haired man being single are SLIM...

Did I mention *sigh*....

Donna Alward said...

I'm blushing. LOL

Our conversations do go off on tangents, don't they Trish? Fun though.

Heroes are the tough guys that have a soft middle. Like something my dh did today. He took his morning off and volunteered as a helper in our daughter's Kindergarten class.

When I popped in (I was in grade 2 this morning) he was surrounded by about 10 eager kids, reading a story.

Of course being handsome doesn't hurt either.

GladysMP said...

I like a guy with a nice personality and he doesn't have to be tall and certainly doesn't have to have muscles like Arnold. Being thoughtful counts more than being wealthy. And, lucky me, I did find my dream guy. I realize I am very, very fortunate. When I was dating, I listened when my dates talked. You learn a lot that way. Notice if you date shows an ungodly temper, if he treats waiters shabbily, etc. Don't think he is going to suddenly change when wedding bells chime. And, yes, I think there are lots of nice guys available. Keep looking. Ha!

allyblake said...

I had one of "those" moments yesterday Liz. A guy came into a clothes shop with his girlfriend and waited outside the fitting room while she tried a dozen things on.

He was beeeaaautiful. Can't take your eyes off him lovely. A face carved from marble with skin so smooth. Dark sweater, dark jeans, and his clothes didn't look crumpled or like they had been washed a thousand times. He was simply heavenly.

And when he joined his girlfriend at the counter and opened his mouth to talk to her, I realised why. He was gorgeously gay. And helping her pick clothes not as a boyfriend but as a fashion guru.

So Trish, you forgot that the good ones are married or not yours for the taking. But that doesn't mean we can't enjoy looking!

And in romance fiction, we can very easily edit out that last part and make him...her single, straight brother instead.

Ally
http://www.allyblake.com

Trish said...

Oooh Ally! I LIKE the part about making him her sister!!! Men here who aren't 'fashion gurus' tend to sulk outside the fitting rooms if they even go to the bother of coming inside the shop! Mostly you get a set of shopping bag laden men outside the shop looking collectively glum... To them its some kind of modern day torture... hy do men just not GET shopping??? Ahhh... I feel another blog coming on....

Gladys the very second I have ANYONE I date take me to a nice restaurant I will definitely take that sound advice and check out their manners. I think thats an excellent idea! So far though, that hasn't happened! Maybe that should tell me something on its own.... But judging guys by what they choose as a first or even second date would be bad of me, right?? Oooh... and now I feel a PLOT coming on....

THANKS GUYS!!!!!